Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Bullying at its best...

Well now that the holidays are over and my waistline has increased, I can finally sit down and reflect on this past year. Although I am sad to see another year end, I am truthfully excited for the new opportunities that 2012 will bring. However while working in retail these last couple of months my heart has been saddened in quite a few ways. I love my job and enjoy pretty much everything about it. From my coworkers to the children who pass through my line, I love it! After taking all these things into consideration I have to call out one issue that seems to be a constant in the retail world. Yup, you guessed it, bullying. Now I will be the first person to admit that when this whole bullying issue arose I shrugged my shoulders and did not really pay attention to anything about it, however now I completely agree that is an ever growing epidemic. I myself have become a victim of bullying recently and have it coming at me from all directions. Instead of playing the victim and curling up in the fetal position and crying about it, I plan to take a stand and make it known that it is not okay. What most people do not realize is that most of the time the one who is doing the bullying has been bullied themselves. I have customers come in all the time that love to use their classic, "You do not know what you are talking about get me someone who is more intelligent," line. Well the buck stops here. To all my friends reading this right now, help me put an end to this cruel, unnecessary way of life. I feel awful that these people believe they have the RIGHT to bully me, or anyone else for that matter, and try to make me feel like less of a being. However it has not worked, and will continue to be ineffective. I guess it goes back to the old school saying, "If you do not have anything nice to say than do not say anything at all." LIVE BY IT PEOPLE! If you are the victim of bullying or downright cruelty, you do not have to take it, set boundaries and standards. Let the person bullying you know that they are messing with the wrong person and simply kill them with kindness. Although it may be hard to believe right now, but standing up for yourself will make you feel liberated and strong, and that is a feeling that not even the cruelest of words can take away from you.

Friday, December 2, 2011

Now he's with her and you're alone...

Reason number 324 why I love college and my major: Communications courses apply to your life in every aspect. Yesterday I went to class just like I normally would and normally I would probably retain a 5th of what was actually said however yesterday was different. One of the biggest reasons why I love my major is because it sparks thought. For someone like me who is always thinking this major is perfect for me. My professor was explaining the reasoning behind why when you break up with a person they seem to almost always find someone else to date or even marry right away. I always thought it was a coincidence until now. The reason is this: when two people are dating and they get in disagreements they are secretly sorting out their own life while arguing about their significant others. So when you break up they seem to always find their ideal person because all the time spent arguing and disagreeing with you made them, and yourself, realize the type of people you are. As my professor put it, "you should be proud you helped straighten out all their issues and take some credit." Although in theory that is flattering and great it is easier said than done. Normally we feel resentment that the other person could move on so quickly and trust me I am just as guilty of it as the next person. However after yesterdays class I no longer hold a grudge on this subject, I am suddenly proud and happy that I somewhat contributed to the happiness and future of that significant other. Now they will probably read this and laugh and think that I'm off my rocker but one day they will see the light like I have and realize that just as I am grateful for them, they should be grateful for me. The beauty of relationships is you got into them thinking the person on the other end was worth taking a chance on, and although that doesn't always end up being your feelings in the end, never regret the time you spent together. I have been out on a lot of first dates and it rarely goes past that, the few and far between I took the time to take a chance on should feel flattered because I am the first to admit I am picky. So it only makes sense that I should be happy and encouraging to them pursing whatever it is they feel the need to pursue, after all I once saw a possibility in them so why shouldn't others. After class yesterday I drove home and honestly had a smile on my face because just as they have moved on I can smile and say that I have done the same and am grateful I have learned so much about myself in the process. God bless!!